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Why!!! The man who Ive just seperated from, belittled me, dragged me down and tried to douse the fire in my soul. Sadly I stupidly allowed it for 5 years and as i am slowly beginning to get back to me, I cannot believe that someone who was as strong as i was, allowed for this man to do that to me. So my very first step to singledom was to go and get a tattoo in memory of my late father. Prior to this I wouldnt go and get one because he didnt like tattoos, even though i already had them. So I sit back and wonder why I allowed him to rule my life with such an iron fist. I deserve better and who knows what the future may bring for me now, but it is an onwards and upwards mindset that I am having now. Have you been with someone who wanted to change the person that you are? If so, was it for the better or have you moved on without that person in your life? |
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Love makes some of us do really stupid things. First we find someone, then we allow their 'bad's' (what we think is their bad) because we believe their 'goods' are worth it. Then we make a mental stand and put them high up there. We proceed to dance to their tune from down bellow, until such time comes,when we take them down from the stand, and all of a sudden they are now a nobody. Looking at them as a nobody, of course we wonder... why the hell did I do all this for this nobody? Look at domestic violence. Any friends of a woman victim are always asking... but why do you stay with him ? And the answer is always an almost identical....But I love him, and I know he did not mean it, and it was my fault, and, and, and. But, your case seems upside down. I thought it was women who got in relationships with men hoping to change them, and men the ones who get into relationships with women, hoping they stay the same for ever. I can not remember in my married life my then wife trying to change me. But many a time over 20 years I did agree to what she was saying, and acted on it, only because it saved the house from the frost ! Anyway, I am sure in a year or two you will be looking back thinking of this as just a bad dream. You started already with the tattoo ! I think I better stop typing now lol
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That's really sad to hear Wenchy, but it happens to a lot of people when they love someone, or just somehow fall under their spell. I guess at the time we feel that by curbing something about our own nature we are making ourselves more what they want. Which might be okay if they actually bring out the best in us. Sometimes it can be hard to tell when you are in the middle of it. It's definitely not something anyone needs to be ashamed of, or regret the time spent, because you always learn something, whatever you do in life. At least I think you do. Even if it is only what not to do again, lol. Anyway, I hope your new optimistic mind set gets you exactly where you want to be in the future. Dreamer.
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